18) SEX
With progress on the path, as "I"- generated pain declines significantly, your ratios improve dramatically and "pleasures" are more intense as you are "there" for the pleasure, not frolicking with the "I"s. Sex, filled with craving, expectation, disappointment and bartering becomes a spontaneous, profound, natural, dance without dancers.
If you watch carefully, you'll see that our "pleasures" are ways to get into the "nondual" space, whether it's free climbing, alcohol, sex, hobbies, games, etc...anything but remain in the "blah, blah".
Source: Relationships, Attachments, and Nonduality...FAQs
Q&A
Q) Regarding to this part of the post: …..“you'll see that our "pleasures" are ways to get into the "nondual" space, whether it's free climbing, alcohol, sex, hobbies, games, etc...anything but remain in the "blah, blah"
Do you think that some all these ways to go into the nondual space help in some way? I always try to remain in the “task network mode” when I’m not working with self-enquiry. If you are studying or working you are in the “task network” mode and I’m wandering if this help as well….”anything but remain in the blah,blah”.
A) Yes, some of these ways to get into the nondual space are helpful, as they give the brain useful data time in the nondual space. However, some of them give a very short period of nonduality/pleasure, and a lot of craving, stories, disappointments, etc./pain/suffering, so I encourage folk to explore options with more pleasure and less pain/suffering to replace/displace the problematic approaches.
Being in the "task network" keeps you out of the "blah, blah" Default Mode Network, so you aren't feeling that pain and suffering, but it doesn't really deconstruct the ego/I that is at the root of the "blah, blah".
That's why we do self-inquiry and letting-go exercises, as you are doing, so that when we aren't in the Tasking Network, we are in an increasingly more still, and less problematic, Default Mode Network.
With progress on the path, as "I"- generated pain declines significantly, your ratios improve dramatically and "pleasures" are more intense as you are "there" for the pleasure, not frolicking with the "I"s. Sex, filled with craving, expectation, disappointment and bartering becomes a spontaneous, profound, natural, dance without dancers.
If you watch carefully, you'll see that our "pleasures" are ways to get into the "nondual" space, whether it's free climbing, alcohol, sex, hobbies, games, etc...anything but remain in the "blah, blah".
Source: Relationships, Attachments, and Nonduality...FAQs
Q&A
Q) Regarding to this part of the post: …..“you'll see that our "pleasures" are ways to get into the "nondual" space, whether it's free climbing, alcohol, sex, hobbies, games, etc...anything but remain in the "blah, blah"
Do you think that some all these ways to go into the nondual space help in some way? I always try to remain in the “task network mode” when I’m not working with self-enquiry. If you are studying or working you are in the “task network” mode and I’m wandering if this help as well….”anything but remain in the blah,blah”.
A) Yes, some of these ways to get into the nondual space are helpful, as they give the brain useful data time in the nondual space. However, some of them give a very short period of nonduality/pleasure, and a lot of craving, stories, disappointments, etc./pain/suffering, so I encourage folk to explore options with more pleasure and less pain/suffering to replace/displace the problematic approaches.
Being in the "task network" keeps you out of the "blah, blah" Default Mode Network, so you aren't feeling that pain and suffering, but it doesn't really deconstruct the ego/I that is at the root of the "blah, blah".
That's why we do self-inquiry and letting-go exercises, as you are doing, so that when we aren't in the Tasking Network, we are in an increasingly more still, and less problematic, Default Mode Network.